i saw some comments on tiktok where people were talking bout how they found tumblr too hard to use and part of it being that there was no lack of dates so “what if you reblog or like something from five years ago?!”
buddy… we have posts circulating still from 2011, its literally just how it is
Being on tumblr for years like:
this post is 2 years old and it’s only going to get funnier as it gets older
Also… you can turn dates on on the web.
You can turn on dates on mobile too. I turned them on months ago
*it may not seem like I can be, but seeing that someone needed to hear it and so they let me say it makes me so so proud. It’s a bit of an oroboros but we’re ignoring that. <3
I am once again explaining that in order for walkable cities and public transit to work for disabled people, there also need to be more public bathrooms available in and around those areas. Not just places to sit down or rest. Bathrooms. We need accessible, clean bathrooms. With sharps bins. With multiple wheelchair accessible stalls. With an area to set down supplies needed to maintain one’s body. Even if it’s not being used to get rid of bodily waste, bathrooms are one of the few spaces disabled people have to maintain some sort of privacy when they’re in the middle of a flare up or they need to take medication or what have you. Designing a public space? Include bathrooms.
Listen, you should never film strangers in public without their consent, but I swear there need to be fines or something for people who do that shit in some spaces. For example: I had to go to the ER last night, and some jerk filmed a woman who just came in and was clearly having an asthma attack. She immediately got to go back, and he was unhappy about that. Believe me, I get that it sucks having to wait when you’re in pain, but you don’t get to pick who deserves care when. The medical system in the US is a nightmare, and the ER could be the worst moment of someone’s life. No one deserves to be recorded because some jack ass believes someone doesn’t look like they need care.
This is fine to reblog. People who film strangers should be shamed if nothing else.
I know a lot of EFR instructors (Emergency first response, the people who teach CPR classes) who used to be ambivalent about this and now are firmly in the “fuck you fuck your phone category.
Maybe its demographics, EFR instructors do tend to be older and less online, but there’s been a shift from voyeur filming being seen as irritating and tasteless to actively harmful.
I met one lady who had an entire section of her lecture based on how to divide labor in emergency and one of those steps was crowd control. If you are taking charge of an emergency situation, you delegate tasks. Point at one person and tell them to call 911, Point at another person tell them to warn traffic, Point at another person tell them to get the first aid kit if you know where it is. You assign small tasks to individuals instead of asking a crowd that way the task actually happens, and you’re not sitting around 20 minutes later wondering why the ambulance is taking so long to show up and it turns out that everyone assumed someone else called.
Now there is another step. Pick a big dude and tell him to stop people from filming. Which is actually the tamest version of what she said, because this lady went on and on about how phones are fragile, light, small, pieces of computer equipment that can be easily punted into oblivion.
And yeah, she’s probably the most vocal proponent of property destruction in the face of voyeur filming I’ve heard lately but she’s far from the only person in emergency services who’s frustrated with the eternal quest for viral videos of strangers pain.
And to be clear there is a huge difference between the paramedic who doesn’t want you filming and the cop who doesn’t want you filming.
If I catch any of you filming someone in medical distress we will be calling two ambulances
when you download a pdf and it’s called like 1328723486basdf12.pdf but then you gently rename it to what it’s supposed to be. that’s forming a bond with a hurt and wild mythological creature and reminding it who it is.
Every time a series makes the switch to being open world it’s like. Okay that’s just what you’re gonna have to be from now on huh. Like the Open World is held on such a high pedestal that once you’ve made the switch you’re never going to be allowed to make anything else. Everything just has to homogenize into this one specific gameplay loop of walking the fuck around an open space.
Evil version of myself with bad taste playing an older game with a smaller but more detailed and refined map that acts as its own elaborate puzzle and story telling device and is satisfying to progress through: “I sure do wish I had the player freedom to walk through a field aimlessly so I could find one of six types of collectibles right about now”
Good for this person. This is exactly what you do. Screw the job.
I had a job that made me work an all nighter, 30 hours straight, over Thanksgiving. I resigned that Monday and it was one of the most satisfying decisions I’ve ever made.
Please pay attention to all the manipulation tactics this boss uses, because they’re pulling out every trick in the book.
“I’m not your boss, I’m your friend”
“Other people will be hurt by this and it’s your fault and I’m going to tell them all that”
Mocking language
Jobs are important too
“Be a team player”
“We’re your family too”
Talking as if this is a thing you must do
“We all make sacrifices”
Undermining your authority
“You caused all of this, really”
Accusing you of being “unprofessional”
“Look at the money you cost us”
“Just laugh it off and come back to work”
This is like a 101 course in how employers use guilt trips to coerce you into putting up with their bullshit. This is precisely why you should never trust those employers who insist that they’re “like a family.” They are not. It’s just a ruse so that your boss can neg you into putting your job ahead of your actual life.
for the last fucking time stop policing the bodies and sexualities of real living breathing short women who like “cute” shit
it’s not pedophilia to be a short adult woman and wear hello kitty underwear. it’s not pedophilia to be a short adult woman who collects plushes. it’s not pedophilia to wear things or to collect things at all.
pedophilia is when an adult sexually preys upon a child, end of.
nothing a woman does with her own self will be “pedophilia” or “pedobait”. pedophiles do not pursue adult women who wear striped thigh highs. they prey upon children.
pedophilia is not wrong because children look a certain way, it’s wrong because they are children and children cannot meaningfully consent. there is not a single child on the planet who can meaningfully consent to sexual activity with an adult.
blaming women who are short and like certain things is misogyny, plain and simple. and I see a lot of you fuckers going after Asian women in particular, which is also actually really fucking racist lmao
donating a toothbrush to a child’s shelter would be more helpful to combat child abuse than anything you keyboard warriors are doing
guess I gotta bring this back because we’re still making takes like “it doesn’t matter if it’s a consenting adult, if you’re attracted to an adult that looks like a minor that’s still pedophilia” in the year of our lord twenty twenty-three
what do these people expect short women to do? remain chaste for all eternity? no really I want to hear the solution. what’s the solution. what do we do about short women who “look like a minor”. what do we do. what do you think we should actually DO.
when people say things like this they do not, for a single moment, consider the woman in this situation. all they’re thinking about is the remote possibility that someone’s getting a boner they’re not supposed to get.
this is the problem with basically any and all relationship and sex “discourse”. the question asked is never “is someone being harmed? is someone’s boundaries being violated? is someone’s agency being denied?” but rather “is someone getting a boner I personally believe they’re not supposed to get?”
and I am goddamn tired of it.
Remember that if “adults who look young are functionally minors and therefore fucking them is pedophilia” is true, then “minors who look older are functionally adults and fucking them is fine” is also true.
Its about capacity to consent, not appearance. The fact that those are loosely connected due to them both being tied to aging does not make them interchangeable. And it is a *lack of capacity to consent* that predators are looking to exploit. They arent going for young looking adults for a reason.
